♪♪ Let's talk about sex, Baby. Let's talk about you and meLet's talk about all the good things and the bad things that may be♪♪ Haha I bet that got your attention. Anyhow I seriously want to cover this because it's something that comes up in conversation whenever I bring up my abuse history. It's … Continue reading BDSM and baggage
Author: melraines
The next step
Ive been scrolling around the reader here reading stories similar to mine, experiences similar to mine, finding a whole host of people as hurt and damaged by a system meant to raise them as I am. A whole host of people outraged and looking for a way to fight back, looking for a way to … Continue reading The next step
A letter to myself
Not so much a letter as a bit of writing I can come back and read over and over again whenever my resolve starts to dip or Im hurting or starting to give in to those thoughts that lead me places I dont want to go. It sounds silly to say out-loud but each night … Continue reading A letter to myself
One stair at a time
I think healing, and overcoming the damage done to my brain and soul, is something of a stair case. An immeasurably long and broken staircase that seems to wind and back track on itself somehow. On each landing is a door leading to some obstacle I have to combat and face. Im getting there. I … Continue reading One stair at a time
Finally healing and letting go
Well, I think finally acknowledging what Im actually feeling and analyzing how Im reacting and why has finally put me on the path to getting the frik out of dodge and getting over the whole mess that wasnt even a real relationship. I just needed someone to call me out. Someone to get me to … Continue reading Finally healing and letting go
Maybe it’s me?
Here we go again, starting like I think every single one of these things does...with a whole lot of self reflection coupled with a bit of an update. I dont honestly even remember where I left off. Was it before my bday or after? I feel like it might have been before as I know … Continue reading Maybe it’s me?
Light, Dark and labels
There's a weird trend in society right now. Everyone wants to be mentally ill. Everyone wants to be 'neurodivergent.' News flash: you are. But the way all these young people cling to the term is starting to drive me a little bit crazy. See the irony there? I suppose it comes back to that whole … Continue reading Light, Dark and labels
In the light
You are not the darkness you endured. You are the light that refused to surrender. This is another one of those posts that's been weeks in the making. I seem to really struggle to write when Im not broody or upset about something. Maybe this blog will fade away at some point since it's not … Continue reading In the light
Metoo, Mentoo and the Mob
I think life, and society, operates on some sort of a pendulum; swinging constantly from one extreme to the other. I think we're on a swing back to the patriarchy and I dont like it. It's taken me a good while to try to compose my thoughts on this because, like everything even a little … Continue reading Metoo, Mentoo and the Mob
Countenance
So Ive been having thoughts, such as an overthinker tends to do, mostly related to the status of women, the roles they choose and all that jazz. Ive come to realize that my wordpress reader is somehow flooded with "relationships tips for women" and articles such as "what are you doing wrong in bed?" now … Continue reading Countenance